Never Say Never

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Never Say Never

“I’d never let my kid drink sodas.”

“I’d never let my child climb on furniture.”

“I’d never let my kids draw all over my dining room walls with crayons…”

“I’d never let my children eat ice cream three days in a row.”

My personal fave:

“I’d NEVER let my kid scream in public.”

Wow.  How many of us have uttered phrases like those and only days later bit our tongue right out of our mouth?

I was the Mom that stood on my soapbox proclaiming I’d NEVER let my kids use iPads or screen time.

I contemplate this notion as God is proverbially and quite forcefully biting my tongue as I type this…

Last week my “never” screen time moment came full circle.  In the worst of ways…

I’d been shouting to the rooftops for years that my kids just wouldn’t be the ones staring at screens like drones.

And then it was the 50-leventh week of summer.

My house looked like a bomb went off.

I was completely out of ideas of what to do.

We’d been to every single free activity in town.

We’d hung out at every playdate we could.

And we were just bored.  ALL of us.

So, you know what we did?  We sat around and GASP watched movies on the iPad!  All. Day. Long.

Judge away, friends…

It’s truly comical all the proclamations that we Mommas make.  Because kids … and God … always have different plans.

Don’t I know it…  Ugh.

Every time we make a “never” statement, we are just setting ourselves up for failure.

Because children aren’t perfect.

And neither are we…

Because if we were, we’d all be driving around in our polished Barbie mobiles reveling in our plastic perfect-ness.

But that’s not what God would have for us.  And honestly, as much as I love Barbie 😉 , I don’t want that crazy level of perfection either!

Every time we say “never,” we are subconsciously judging our fellow Momma tribe members and setting ourselves up for the same later on when, inevitably, that “never” turns into a “well, I couldn’t stop it!!.”

And ain’t nobody got time for that!

God places these tongue-bite-inducing, “never” moments in our lives to remind us that we are not in control.

No matter how much we try (and Lord knows I try!), He is the One running the show!

He also uses these “never” moments to make us stronger.

In those moments especially, we have to lean on Him and accept His grace.  He is chipping away at us and fine tuning us.  Slowly

So, wipe the Sprite off Junior’s chin.

Go get Susie before she gets to the top of the bookcase.

Pro Tip: The magic eraser works great for crayon on dining room walls…

Add a sprinkle or two to your next ice cream cone.

And for God’s sake don’t let ’em scream in public…

HA!  Kidding

Next time you say “never,” stop and thank the Lord that he will NEVER leave you 😉 not even on those “never” moment days!

What’s your latest “never” moment?

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14 replies
  1. Diana
    Diana says:

    I laughed at these. My baby is only 7 months, so there hasn’t been really any “I Never” moments for me, but I don’t think there will be as I am a pessimist so I always expect the worst! Kids will be kids and I always find it funny when someone says “I’ll never…. like you have a choice. How are you going to stop your kid? And sometimes parents need a break, so having a movie day here and there isn’t going to ruin your child, just don’t make it every day 😉

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    • erinbrownhollis@gmail.com
      erinbrownhollis@gmail.com says:

      Totally agree, Diana! Such great thoughts. Thank you so much for reading and hope you are having a great week 🙂

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  2. Jiya B
    Jiya B says:

    Loved reading the post. Its a motovation booster. Yes the time comes in life when you feel oh I give up. But, one who overcome the phase with the smile is the truw winner. Never say Never.

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  3. Chevelle
    Chevelle says:

    I was just talking about this! I literally do so many things I swore I would never do. I wish I could go back and slap my silly pre-baby self. I’ve learned very quickly to never judge another mommy and never say never!

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    • erinbrownhollis@gmail.com
      erinbrownhollis@gmail.com says:

      I totally agree Chevelle! I am having to do the same thing! Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts! Hope you are having a great week! 🙂

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  4. Rachel
    Rachel says:

    I was the first of my friends to get married and have kids. Everytime one of them would tell me what they would never do as a mom I would just laugh. They are nice about letting me rub it in and say I told you so.

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    • erinbrownhollis@gmail.com
      erinbrownhollis@gmail.com says:

      Oh my goodness! I dealt with the exact same thing. And bless their hearts, they just had no clue what was coming their way 😉 Thanks so much for sharing your sweet words. We Mommas have to stick together! Hope you are having a great week 🙂

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  5. Jenni Petrey
    Jenni Petrey says:

    I very quickly learnt to pick my battles with my two. “I’ll never let my kids wear PJ’s to school!” Well at least my son is not just wearing jocks to school!
    I love this post!

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    • erinbrownhollis@gmail.com
      erinbrownhollis@gmail.com says:

      HAHA! I love this, Jenni! SO True! Thank you so much for your kindred Momma comments! You are awesome! Hope you are having a great week 🙂

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